Void: Lacking contents, empty, emptiness, empty space, a state of feeling or loss or privation.
I have heard the cries of many women, add to them my own. We ask how long Lord before someone enters my life? A good person, someone to love me and take care of me, Lord. I want some companionship! When???
I am an older woman who has been through a lot of growth so I can tell younger women to wait. What?! Wait how long? They do not feel that they have reached that point yet. I understand because I now standing on the other side. I understand because I have not always been here. Like everything else in life there is a process to healing. Even I still have feelings of emptiness, the ever present longing for companionship, to be held kissed, caressed, and told I am beautiful.
It has taken such a long time to write this because I realize how sad it is to long for that someone. Just waiting not to mention the longing for attention from another human being. I have been told that women of my age still have these feelings, and I can say at my age I still do.
What to do when that feeling suddenly comes over you like an intense hot flash? You may not want to acknowledge what works for me, yet still, my answer will always be, talk to God. We have a serious talk, and yes I cry to my Father and get comfort until the next time. From my experience, prayer works. Knowing that He supplies all my needs, yes, including this one. He fills the void, He can I tell you. To keep this yearning at bay I cannot watch certain things on television. Why? Well, we women yearn for the attention of the male species. In this day and time we have to be careful with ourselves, body and heart.
Loving God assures me that He will not bring someone into my life who will come between He and I. I am thankful for His word and the assurance it brings of this blessing. With the wisdom knowledge and understanding I have gained I know He will do it in His own time. Having a personal relationship with the Master I know He has done the impossible before in my life. God is the restorer of His people when we diligently seek Him. I suggest to all women to seek Him. You have never been loved until you are saturated in love from the precious Holy Spirit. The bible says seek and you shall find, knock and the door will be open. I have stood at the door knocking and He let me in.
Loneliness it’s just a void needing to be filled. It’s a void like hunger. The need of something to fill the that empty space will be there until you eat something whole and get full.
It is such a strong feeling, loneliness.
It is why so many of us find ourselves in unhealthy relationships. We women have to be mindful of who is filling the void.
we find ourselves finding so call Love in the wrong places some of us get into relationships that causes more pain than we had before we are our own enemy some of our sisters don’t make it through some get on drugs, abuse or death for them and their children all I say is that could have been me. To be honest my testimony my truth is I’ve had other people trying to fill that void finding out I was still lonely I realized those people were for someone not for me God allowed those void fillers to come and go not attaching themselves to me or me to them, the person whom attention I wanted I got the attention but still there was that void something was missing Love pure Love between a man and a woman I don’t know what Love is really you know what it feels like what was missing true love and that’s what the Lord Jesus provides he can fill that void that emptiness in a relationship there has got to be love and respect not one giving and the other taking draining the person of what they are some say it’s better to have a piece of man than no man at all that’s a problem are you being satisfied in the relationship who is being pleased you or him. Try Jesus you’re be satisfied in every way it’s a win , win situation I remember crying one time after having sex with this person he asked why was I crying I told him it’s because I’m here with you he looked surprised and confused I felt so empty and again asking Lord there has got to be more for me.
It took several years of crying and calling on the name of the Lord I knew a change was coming and it did free at last free at last again but this time it’s different I know the Lord Jesus Christ that’s what I was seeking it filled that void when I’m lonely he holds me I have the relationship I need the loneness is gone I can say I have peace and contentment, being in lustful relationship there was no love or mention of love anymore so if it wasn’t love it was lust it like we had that understanding not even respect it was what it was filling a void not so much his mine some of us say well my body needed that, not knowing that the mental harm it was doing I remember several times getting upset because the person was not available when I wanted him I dare him! Sometimes calling and calling. I remember reading the story of Ruth and about Esther that’s what I want a king or a Boaz no more of these bozo the clown Ruth the bible says clave to her mother-in-law moved to another city met Boaz who was rich and a man of God did I say rich (laughing) she said whither thou goest I will go your God is my God so there was something in her mother –in –law she respected and seen what strength she had to see her faith she had in her God because where Ruth came from she worshipped idols so for her to believe in God she had to have seen the works he had performed in Naomi her mother in law so the story continues they travel back to Naomi’s home and Ruth is working in the fields where Boaz sees her pay close attention Boaz sees her she actually paid him no attention so Ruth had to be something to see in Boaz eyes she was put there just for Boaz to see so again he that findeth a wife finds a good thing there is no harm in being sought by the right person pleasing to his eye.
Now being me knowing and seeing what God has done in my life protecting me from me looking and filling a void I know to wait and see the man (MAN) God is bringing to me knowing the Love of God it’s now anticipation waiting to see how he’s going to look, what’s his name because I know he’s coming . I told a friend of mine it seems like I’m invisible to men she said you’re not invisible the right man has to see you made sense after she said it I’ll be what he sees A women said I just called out to God on day and said LORD I’M TIRED OF BEING ALONE!! We have to remember the devil hears our cry also we have to be so careful that’s why we go in prayer she’s not alone anymore as soon as she said that a man she had known came along (a man) a younger man came into her life he filled her void but is she happy? I’m not going to reveal it to you I really want some feedback on this one ladies. I tell everybody and talk to young ladies stating I’m waiting on God well this is what I get from young women, you’re older and I said to them just because I’m older don’t think I don’t want the same thing you do I want companionship, to be held but most of all to be loved I have had several conversations with the Lord on this subject I even had a date several weeks I remember saying to myself and God I did not want anybody someone brought to me well here again the devil hears and tries to make a liar of you so we’re at work talking my coworker say we need to get you someone your pretty dresses well they feeling so sorry for me I got set up everything is a set up by God or the devil one of my co workers says I have a number to give you a man from my church wanted me to give my number to a friend a nice woman like her his wife had passed away he wanted a good women she gives me, me his number it took me a while to call so here I go taking the bait again be careful of friends with good intentions were at work talking again well have you call the man yet I said no! I was afraid because I just was not comfortable “oh” call the man what can it hurt go on call him your scared you can’t be scared all the time I called the man we talked set up a date I still was not comfortable I said I’m going to call and cancel this right now they said “what’s wrong with you” it’s just a date girl go I agreed I go on the date Time for this man to pick me up steps from his car a very nice mustang ok he was handsome my height opens the door for me a complete gentleman we get in the car very clean we talk he’s playing music the kind I like the blues I say all right this might work we go to dinner talk go have drinks talk some more talked about his wife and family we had too much in common he was an only child just like me 4 children like me too much and he takes me home I give him a hug this man would have been ideal (not) this OG said well I had a good time I think we should have a second date now let me tell you because I had so much faith in God and he was such a gentlemen just what I had been talking to God about when this mad said he was going to call me he did ,again he was a gentleman I said to myself he’s got to be the one ha!!!!! This man called me we talked then days passed after a while the phone calls stopped after he said we were going on another date I was going through some changes feeling funny my spirit was disturbed I knew why that was the same spirit my ex had I called this man several times I finally left him a message telling him to have a good life. Be careful of the spirits they know who you are I started feeling attached from me it was so strange feeling this was wrong disturbing my spirit making me feel uneasy this was not the one we have to be so careful with us (women) I tore up his number and removed his number from my phone… Women ask yourself who is filling the void or do you still feel empty the best way to fill the void is through Jesus Christ depend on his Holy Spirit a friend of mine wrote a book check it out When Loving Him is Killing You (Goldia Felder). On Amazon. a Boaz or a King ask yourself is there more? Be careful how you cry out God hears and knows so does the devil.